5 Brutally Honest Signs Your Boyfriend Doesn’t Love You (Anymore)

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Do you feel like your boyfriend’s love is fading away?

You probably have a gut feeling that something is off, but denial is so much easier and so is ignoring obvious signs that your boyfriend doesn’t love you, right?

Obviously, denial doesn’t last. As much as you try to ignore it, deep inside you can’t. It makes you depressed, suspicious, frustrated, hurt, sad and lonely.

And that instantly drives him further away from you. And isn’t that the exact opposite of what you want?

Now’s the time to be brutally honest with yourself and face the reality. It’s going to be hard but the light at the end of the dark tunnel is:

If your boyfriend loved you once, he can love you again.

These are signs that your boyfriend doesn’t love you, and what to do to reverse it and make him fall for you all over again (this time for good!).

5 Signs Your Boyfriend Doesn’t Love You

1. He “Doesn’t Know”

If your boyfriend has directly told you that he doesn’t know if he loves you, or that he “loves you but not in love with you”, or he loves you but not sure you are “the one” – It means his feelings for you have changed.

These are all (quite pathetic) attempts to tell you that he is no longer in love with you, without facing the “women drama” that all guys fear.

One of my ex boyfriends (I was so in love with him) told me that he still loves me but not sure he wants to live with me anymore and wants to try living apart (But not break up).

This was of course a load of BS, but I couldn’t handle the underlying message and stayed with him for a whole month after he moved out from our apartment.

Every day I waited for him to change his mind and come back, until a month later I told him I can’t do this anymore and broke up with him.

Obviously he did not protest…because it was exactly what he wanted.

2. He Turns the Tables

If your boyfriend acts distant, ignores you, doesn’t communicate and avoids you while accusing you of doing these exact things, he is signaling you that he wants out.

This is because he feels a lot of guilt from falling out of love. And the easiest way to relieve this guilt is by convincing himself that the feelings are mutual and in fact, you don’t love him anymore either.

Does that make sense to you?

How relieved would you be if you stopped loving a guy but knew that he feels the same and won’t be heart-broken by it when you tell him?

That’s what’s going in his mind (probably subconsciously).

Another related sign is checking the relationship status obsessively. If your boyfriend keeps asking “are we o.k.”? (In one way or another), nothing is o.k.

3. Change in Priorities

If your boyfriend gradually or suddenly starts to ignore your texts and calls (and make stupid excuses for it), or prefers hanging out with his friends and family (without you), or shows you that you are not his priority anymore, he may have lost interest in your relationship and trying to do the “fade out” breakup.

My ex boyfriend not only found stupid excuses to avoid seeing me, calling me and answering my texts, but made sure I found out he was lying.

For example, he would tell me that he is busy at work, but then his brother would “accidentally” tell me how they went out for drinks together at that exact time.

He wanted me to know.

4. Busy Schedule

Couples in love make plans all the time. From little plans like going out tomorrow to big plans like moving in together some day, or having 2.4 children.

If your boyfriend suddenly stops making plans with you, or stops talking about the future he sees with you, it’s a bad sign.

My ex boyfriend made it even clearer than this. He told me that in the future he wants to live in a different country, but never mentioned anything about me coming with him. It was clear that he holds no place for us in his future.

5. He Suddenly Has Secrets

If your boyfriend suddenly starts hiding things from you, it’s a sign that he is planning to bail.

If your boyfriend suddenly doesn’t want you to see his phone (including text messages, last calls etc), or doesn’t want to tell you where he is going and what he is doing, the red flag should be up.

(Read: Why Men Lie to Women)

In the best case scenario, he doesn’t love you anymore and doesn’t want to include you in his life. In the worst case scenario, another woman has already gotten on his radar and that’s why he is being secretive.

My ex boyfriend all of a sudden started taking his phone everywhere with him, including the bathroom. He made sure I had no access to it and claimed it’s a privacy matter.

2 months after we broke up I found out that he already started going out (!) with another woman while were still together.

What to Do If Your Boyfriend Doesn’t Love You Anymore

I’ll repeat what I’ve said in the beginning:

If your boyfriend loved you once, your boyfriend can love you again. 

I know it seems hard to believe, but it’s true.

This does not have to be the end and you don’t have to sit there waiting for the ax to fall.

You can reverse things.

More than that, you can, with the right knowledge, make your boyfriend WAKE UP and see the beautiful, smart and loving woman he has standing right in front him.

By simply learning how the male mind works, you can easily make him fight for your relationship, obsessed and desperate to keep you in his arms, without you making any effort.

Without begging, pleading and looking desperate.

Even if you found 1001 signs your boyfriend doesn’t love you, you can still reverse it.

If he loved you once, he can love you again.

What do you think? Can you prevent a guy from leaving you if you really want to?

Rooting for ya,

be irresistable


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  1. my boyfriend and i are staying together at his place but dont make love anymore, last time we did was a month ago. his family knows me, and he used to talk about marriage but now says he doesnt have money. we ahve broken up several times and all the time he will have a girlfriend, then claims it never meant anything to him nad i’m the “one”. i suspect that during our last break he had unprotected sex because the blanket that was on the bed had some stains that clearly looks like he was withdrawing, ans of course he denies this. i forgave him, asked him to get it cleaned(that was in march) but upto now he hasnot done anything about it, though i ask him about it.
    yesterday we were to sleep at my parents’ house but he never pitched, came in the morning, no explanation or whatsoever. what does this mean?

    • Lolo,

      I think that deep down you already know the answer to your question, you don’t really need me…

      He has lost interest for some reason, and when guys are not interested in sex that’s a big red flag.

      I think that you know what you have to do, and the sooner you do the sooner you’ll be able to get to better places in your life.

      I wouldn’t waste another day.

      I’m sorry you’re going through this, but I always believe that everything works out for the best and happens for a good reason.

  2. My boyfriend losses he’s time for me,
    the last time we talked i got mad and he said i love you goodnight those are my last words, and after a week he dont have time for me. We talked and i said what is happening he said nothing and he tell me that he love me,
    and yesterday is our 1st month and i i greeted him and i say i love you he replied “im going to take a bath XD” and we talked again and i told him whats wrong he said theres nothing wrong .. he doesnt take our conversation serious anymore… what does that mean?

    • I think it means he is angry at you, probably because you haven’t resolved your conflict in that last conversation.

      Talk to him face to face and try to work things out.
      Good luck!