One of the most common questions I get from my readers is “How to get a guy to ask you out? Should I play hard to get?”
Do men really like to chase? Do you have to be unavailable to really get his attention and make him want you?
I think it’s time to shatter one of the biggest misconceptions women have about men and to do that I am sharing this valuable piece of advice written by the well-known expert dating coach – David Wygant.
How to Get a Guy to Ask You Out?
In famous books like The Rules and He’s Just Not that Into You, the authors espouse the coy technique, i.e., the more you act like you don’t care about a guy, the more he’ll fall for you. Is it true?
The answer—a resounding NO. So why does this technique seem to work so often? The reason—men are not falling in love with you, they’re falling in love with your unavailability. Most people are attracted to things they can’t have. If someone acts like they don’t need you or want you, or that they are unattainable, suddenly they become a challenge. This is Psychology 101. Think about it. How much would you love the guy you have a crush on if instead of him being a challenge, he was staring at you all day, enamored, completely at your beck and call, worshipping your every word and move. Might be fun for a while, but eventually you’d lose interest in him.
The problem for most women who use the “coy” technique comes when you they can longer keep up the emotionally unavailable charade. At some point they have to let down their guard, be themselves, become vulnerable, and see if the man accepts them for who they are or see if he heads for the door. Most of the time if a man is not ready for a relationship, or a woman is no longer emotionally unavailable, he’s heading for the door.
Stop looking for easy answers to life’s most complex and challenging issues. There is no mind game that will bring you real satisfaction and a lifetime of fulfillment.
Instead of trying to figure out ways to manipulate men into loving you, spend time becoming the best person you can be and get proactive with your dating life. Meet as many men as possible until you find a natural meaningful connection with someone who is also willing to make a real attempt at intimacy and commitment. Believe me, they are out there. However, this much I guarantee—as long as you stereotype men and underestimate their intelligence and their complexity, you will never find a meaningful experience with one. And as long as you continue to buy into pop theories of attraction, you will continually be chasing your own tail. (The original article is here.)
How to Get a Guy to Ask You Out – Without Playing Mind Games
Now that you understand that playing hard to get is not the way to a guy’s heart you are Free to celebrate who you really are.
Understanding how to get a guy to ask you out does not have to become such hard work. Meeting men is not about memorizing rules, or learning “do’s and don’ts” – there are some great “tips” I can give you about how to but that is only a small part of the equation.
Being “attractive” starts with you understanding that YOU have the power to be attractive RIGHT NOW!
I highly recommend you to read every word of advice David Wygant has for you, you can find his blog Right Here.
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